Yesssss, Bonnie, Yesssss!

Oh yeah, but do check out TED it is awesome

Hahahahah….good one!….nice crown.

hahahah…there ya go! i was just thinking about ALL those “Who cares?” If you don’t care why did you even click on this article? There seems to be a lot of other topics on this site to comment about. If this topic really has no meaning to you why do you feel the need to make sure everyone knows that you don’t care? Remember the old saying “Me thinks thou protest etc etc….” Me—- heck, I like a little gossip here and there. I’m not ashamed to admit it. But of course there are a LOT more important things to explore and comment about. Now i’ve got my gossip I’ll go back to those….and I hope the two young women are very happy together….no matter what they are up to.

Whoopie has been one of my heroes since i first saw her…when she was first doing stuff on tv. She speaks up. She says what she thinks, does what she wants. A role model for us all! The only reason I watch the View. (since Rosie left) YAY for Whoopie! Of course she’s a star in Xanadu….she’s a star in everything she does!

I am a birthmother. I was nineteen and pregnant before it was acceptable to be an unmarried mother. I wanted so much to keep my child, but did what everyone was telling me to do and place my child for adoption. Seventeen years later I gave birth to another son and looked him in the eyes and cried for my first..my lost.. son. I want all adoptees to know that we birthmothers did not always “reject” our children. Not one day has gone by that i do not think of my first son. I did search for him. I also joined support groups and met and talked to a lot of other birthmothers and adoptees. I did find my son, I was able to contact his adopted brother. But rejection can go both ways. My son does not want to have any contact with me. He has made that very clear. It hurts me, but I respect his decision. One day I hope he will change his mind. I have recently been able to at least see a picture of him and his wife and daughter. When a woman carries a child for nine months there is a connection that cannot be denied. I found a lot of fear of birthmothers from adoptive parents in my activities in the community of the triangle of birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptees. The one thing that I think most adoptees and adoptive parents need to know is that we birthmothers (I am not a man and cannot speak for birth-fathers) are not all emotionally empty or socially unacceptable women who rejected their children. The children we carried are always in our hearts and every birthmother I met truly wanted the best for the child (or children) they relinquished. I am glad that open adoption has become more popular. I believe it leaves fewer questions unanswered and acknowledges the participation of the birthmother in the process. So, even though it saddens me that my son does not want contact with me, I am happy that I am at least able to know that he has built a happy life for himself and he will always be a part of my life even if we never meet.

I answered Very Worried to this. But then, i’m in my late fifties, in graduate school and doing well and enjoying it, getting massive school loans, foodstamps to get thru the summer. No retirement protection. Then i realized, i’m not really worried at all. Everything seems to work out in the end. i’ve survived this far. What? Me worry?

Good answer, Ina. I myself do not even like the term patriotism. It implies loyalty or love of one portion of a world—indeed an entire universe— and a patriocracy (if that’s a word) at that. What about matriotism? Loyalty and love for ALL inhabitants of mother earth. That is what I myself feel—a loyalty, love and responsibility to the entire planet, universe and ALL life that exists. I get so tired of the idea that one country or it’s citizens is better than all others—that we must love our country simply because it is where we were born (or currently live.) We were all born into a universe and onto a planet that is in need of tolerance and love.

I saw a post that someone started school at 55. I was so glad to see that. I’ve returned to school for my masters at 57. Retirement for me is retiring from doing jobs I don’t want to do and working at something I’m excited about and will probobly never retire from.