Cindy S

My Comments (15 so far…)

Dear Margo: When Idiot Strangers Speak

Downtrodden, he is unsure of himself. He probably doesn’t want to hurt you to the same extent that he was hurt. He’s probably mentally sure that you’re the best, but his emotional side still has a lot of baggage. He’s probably not ready to commit to anybody right now. Let him have some freedom from both you and his ex. Make an agreement that both of you are free to date other people.Take that break and see what happens. Some people take years to recover. Some people need a hard reality check. His reality check will happen when he misses you and gets over his ex. This happened to me. The creep I dated came back several years after dating me, but it was too late for him. For your boyfriend, I hope he realizes he’s with a decent, sensitive, caring and loving person before it’s too late. And, if you had kids, would you think he could be emotionally supportive of you? Only he can answer that one.

Dear Margo: ... And Maybe Cut Down on the Tequila

At 50, he SHOULD know better to take care of you, but obviously he didn’t expect to also be sick. Maybe somebody also spiked his drink as a joke back at him. If his car and its insurance is also in your name, the accident he may have could drop your insurance and you will also lose driving privilege.

Alcoholism is a sickness. Hitting somebody with a rolling pin won’t solve that one. If he thinks he’s really handsome, take his picture when he’s drunk again and post it as ‘Mr Handsome’ on the refrigerator. Humiliation is in line for this dude. If he’s online before theses ‘parties’, use software that captures keystrokes, images, and back up his hard drive when he’s gone. Evidence is great to use.

Dear Margo: Seriously Playing Games

Mr Nice…Maybe a good vacation WITHOUT a computer, web access and just plain old non-technical activities would be in line. Find a good vacation spot in the country and see if any quality time improves the relationship. If not, you know where you stand. Sometimes online relationships are purely platonic. Find a way to bring her back to the real world. I remember days when there was no web. We talked to neighbors. Our entertainment was black and white TV. Rich neighbors had air-conditioning, several cars or awnings. We are SO involved with electronics it’s pathetic. Get a dog. They make great companions and she may find the dog to be a better mate than an online one. A walk outside is refreshing.

Dear Margo: Her Mother, the Dinosaur

#1- I’d find a way to move out and be independent asap. Are there any classmates who live off campus who value education as much as you do? Having an official address away from your mother gives you the option to declare yourself as independent and obtain a higher student loan from FAFSA. I had a bad roommate in college who practically kicked me out of our room and I slept in the TV room a lot. It really hurt my grade point average. College has enough stress, pressure and time management.

#2 - There are 2 ways to look at this. (1) Sell it to them and let them be slobs in their own environment. Take the money and buy another one for ‘romantic’ getaways with only your husband. (2) Change the lock, keep them out and deal with their wrath for not being pampered. You are not their servant. Your husband is a WIMP!

Announcing the Winner of Our 'Caption This' Contest

It could be a reference to ‘thunder thighs’ possibly. Bizarre.

What is your favorite form of exercise?

I invested in a high energy active dog who loves to go for really long walks or play pretty intensely indoors. She stares at me for the workout. Otherwise, I may be lax and surf the web. There is no peace until we do our 2 or 3 mile walk.

Together Forever Celebrity Couples From Maury and Connie to Kevin and Kyra

It’s great to see such a diversity in people in this set of photos. In today’s world, too many older women are written off for a younger mate by powerful men. It was nice to see some older couples have what it takes to day together.

When Will Earth People Live on the Moon? (Audio)

Send all the men to the moon. We can straighten it out like we usually do to our homes here.

Prostate Cancer and Your Man: What You Need to Know

One of the biggest hurdles to this type or any type of cancer is health care privacy. My husband goes alone to our doctor. I go alone to our doctor. Our kid goes alone to the doctor. No information or prompting is shared across my husband’s visit, our son’s visit and my visit to the doctor. All I can do is prompt them to get screened, but it’s ultimately up to them. Once cancer of any type is advanced enough, it can be way too late to take care of it. It’s incredibly frustrating. In some ways I feel powerless about their well being. My mom’s generation probably had more influence on mens’ health.

Study: Women Rule the House, and Men Don't Mind

Messy people make it really difficult to constantly maintain, clean and improve property. I feel stretched in all directions when I try to pick up, organize and clean others’ messes in addition to the usual tasks. Decision making is put aside with that kind of chaos. And, it’s really difficult to hear those all too familiar and occasional defeated words: ‘whatever you want to do’. It should be mutual. It’s hard to predict when somebody has a strong feeling for something. Some people do that passive/aggressive technique to gain some control. Some people are extremely possessive or have a very difficult time to thow unused items away. It’s a control thing.

Joan Ganz Cooney: <i>Real</i> Men Aren't Afraid of Women Over 50

Younger women can be trophy wives and have babies. It is a harsh status symbol and can create a shallow relationship. What do the kids learn about that?

wOw Scenes: Our Pets

I obtained a mutt 6 years ago. She looks mostly like a border collie with a little of something else like springer spaniel. She’s extremely smart. In that time, she has figured out how to manipulate and control everybody in my household. She has unique expectations out of everybody here. She takes me for a 2 mile walk every night. It’s a great stress buster. She’s the best investment I made. I think she initially came here from the pound expecting this to be another foster home. She is now well established here and now romps on her own personal livingroom chair and has at least 4 beds as well.

Julia Reed's Inbox Channels Garbo

Email is great. If it didn’t exist, I’d not be posting this one. However, it doesn’t provide one with the ability to see facial expressions, retract or explain a misunderstood message, read body language and note tone of voice. Our society has become way, way way too much addicted to reading emoticons, tacky misspelled messages and overall rude messages that occasionally go through spam filters. When we get to actual meaningful email, it seems like it takes too long.