I, too, dislike my space being invaded. My mother used to read everything we did, including my sister’s and my diaries. I quit writing because I felt that if I put it away in my drawer, it was not meant for anyone else. My sister continued to write and now we are glad she did. She died from uterine cancer at 53 and left a diary that her daughters have transcribed, as well as a wealth of short stories and poems. At first I felt like I was intruding on her space, but remembered that she had asked for a shredder for her last Christmas and told me how she would picture all the people who had hurt her, especially an abusive ex-husband, and the cancer on each page she was shredding. She said if she left it unshredded we could read it. We are self publishing the book of short stories and poems, because she always wanted that done. We are not publishing the diary, yet. I told my daughters when they got old enough to put their things away that I would not go into their private places if they would put their things away and not give me reason to feel they were untrustworthy. I also told my husband, when we married, I would wash and fold the laundry, but I would not put his away, nor go through his pockets, but I expected the same from him. Oh, by the way there is a wonderful Drive-in in Monte Vista, Colorado that has the Movie Manor Motel attached to it where you can get a room and watch the drive-in movie if you don’t want to sit in your car. Talk about privacy when watching a movie.

4 a.m. is usually a “pit stop” and the furnace kicking on in the winter. After I return to bed and fall back to sleep, my husband gets up at 4:30 because he makes the coffee and breakfast for me when I get up for the day at 6. I am aware of him leaving the bed because the cat gets off my feet and leaves the space he has conveniently warmed for “Lucky”.

I get tired of the blame being placed on the wives. If a man is going to “stray” he will no matter what his wife does or how she acts. As for the unprotected sex, in this day when we are aware of all the STDs, it is totally inexcusable for him to bring this home to his wife. I feel like his greatest problem, infidelity aside, is now owning up to his actions and secondly expecting his wife to stand by him in the endless news conferences. She and the children need to take a vacation away from everyone and he needs to learn the meaning of responsibility. A whole lot of counseling is called for whether or not they remain a couple. As for Dr. Laura, there are a whole lot of stereotypes that she seems me that she is buying into on both this and other subjects, when she should be more objective.