Deena B.

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Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

By way of clarification, I do know that she said "….a white man who has not lived that life." That’s not precisely the sort of qualifier I’m getting at, though. One can have plenty of life experience without coming from any particular background. She seems to be saying only someone with her background would have the sort of wisdom of which she speaks.

Liz Smith: Angie and Brad's Bonanza of Birthdays

I have not seen Jonathan Winters in eons. I’ve always liked him. And Professor Irwin Corey. I used to like him when I was very small. I can’t even remember what I saw him on. I just know I thought he was very "cute".

Liz Smith: Lindsay Lohan – Nobody's 'Over' at 23

Who? Oh. Before my time. (kidding….)

Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

Suzanne, so are you saying that your other acquaintances think their husbands never make the best decisions? I’m getting the impression lately that a lot of women who post here have pretty poor opinions of the men in their lives. That surprises me.

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

Kelly, these are the same folks who compared pregnancy to a hen (the man) merely offering up her (his) eggs and a pig (the woman) sacrificing her life for someone’s breakfast. I’ve never thought of motherhood as giving up my very life. But that’s just me, I guess.

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

There is a huge difference between being forced to either abort or carry a baby to term and simply giving consideration to the feelings of your partner in life. Then, if the two of you are not in agreement, something obviously has to give. Someone has to have the final say. I agree that should be the woman. And let the chips fall where they may in the relationship. But to not allow the father’s opinions to carry any weight whatsoever baffles me. My husband is not my jailer. He is my partner. What kind of relationships do some of you people have??

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

If the woman and the man are not of the same opinion in this situation, clearly someone has to have the final say. It makes sense to me that this would be the woman. But if the two are in a committed relationship, it boggles my mind that the woman would not at least give serious consideration to the man’s feelings. That’s not the type of relationship I would care to be a part of. I’m getting the impression of late that many of the women who post here do no much care for the men in their lives.

Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

I think if she had said that a wise Latina would make better decisions than a less experienced white male, or words to that effect, there would be no problem (not for me anyway). But she did not add such a qualifier. Which makes it a much more sweeping generalization. Hence the problem.

Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

I don’t believe in rushing the process either but the senators on the Judiciary Committee sure do enjoy the sounds of their own voices. I thought they’d never get down to business.

Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

I said I did not know this to be necessarily true. "Necessarily" being the key word. I don’t think we can make such broad generalizations. Nor should we.

Sonia Sotomayor's Confirmation Hearings Start Today; Many Expect Her to Dazzle

Umm, I’m a married woman and I don’t know this to be necessarily true.

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

Pregnancy is like ham and eggs for breakfast. The hen is involved, but the pig is committed.

Perhaps. But I doubt that the pig in your analogy would have chosen that particular commitment under any circumstances. For most of us, motherhood is not quite so distasteful.

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

Laura, I have serious issues with late term abortions, too. But I provided that link for those who presumed the author was approaching this from an altogether different angle. And I agree about the father. This was a highly emotional time for both. We don’t know that he would not have stayed. He would have had a lot of issues to work through, just as she did, and that is understandable. He may very well have chosen, in the end, to stay.

How My Decision About a Late-Term Abortion Affected My Marriage, by Alice Eve Cohen

Susan, first of all, I think we need to keep in mind that this is a condensed version of the story. I imagine a lot of blanks are filled in by reading the book in it’s entirety. Also, this woman was 44 and presumed to be infertile. I don’t know how long she and her fiance had been together (another blank to be filled in) but it likely did not occur to them that they would ever be faced with this situation. Even when we try to be prepared, life can still throw us some curves.