Nancy Pea,

You made my day. I just came in from a beautiful walk. Your words are very loving and powerful, thankyou. Intellectually I know exactly what has happened to my spirit My sons call him the lampray. An energy vampire. You are right about picking myself up and living again. I have two choices ……one to crumble and die or one to live with passion and rise above. I am going to grow through this. I have so many lovely people in my life, it would be a sin to let myself miss out on all the joy they have in store for me. Keep chanting , I will too!

I can totally relate to you being in marriage #3 with a psychopath. It feels like I’m being punished every day for something I didn’t do. I also know what it feels like to be disappearing. My best friend said the same thing to me. I do have beautiful sisters that I love very much. But I can see how people start falling away from you. I feel like such a failure on one hand and strong on the other. Confused is what I am. Take care of yourself and you are an inspiration!

Hi Lisa,

I can see by your letter, regardless of what your husband has taken from you , there is love from your other important sources. That saysalot about you as a wonderful person. Your kids love you because you are lovable. You have my validation , I hope that helps as much as you have helped me. My story is long so I wont go into it right now. I do however believe I know how you feel. There are women that can be completely destroyed by this. So see him in the truth and you will remain whole. Hugs to you.

There are alot of misunderstandings about abuse. The victim can be the smartest, kindest, pulled together person you know. Its the abuser who is sick. They can latch on to anyone and suck the life out of them. The abuser hates themselves and will punish their victim just because of the deep dark place inside of them needs to be fed. So therefore never judge the victim, he or she has been broken down and their spirit deprived of healthy love. When this happens they become consumed with questions of how and why this is happening and how can I fix it. They may spend years in the cycle of abuse because the good times allow them to stay in their warm home,bed,a glimpse of a normal life. Then it comes again………the abuse,the shock,the paralyzed feeling. The victim starts to feel like they are crazy and know one will understand…This makes the abuser even more powerful. So to sum this up, the abuser is insidious and can hurt even the strongest of the strong. This is serious and never should be ignored. Help anyway you can if you see someone hurting. People get energy from other healthy people, and just need that hand reaching out to them no matter how many times you have to do it. God Bless the great people working at our area shelter. They change lives one day at a time.

Margo,

Thankyou for your work. I love the fact that we have a voice when these stories stir some passion within us. The Internet has made your work more complex but hopefully more rewarding. Your response is always right on, we just like to elaborate on it…lol. Take care!

Lw2 I agree with everyone here. This is unexceptable. If you dont do anything else in this life you must protect your child. There are times when we dont see when our children are being hurt. But this is right before your eyes. Follow your heart (you have one your husband dosnt) and get this evil man out of your precious life. It will change your sons life forever if you dont.

Terry, first of all, my prayers to you and your family. I have your same thoughts on life. Love. Possessions? They do not buy happiness. The love of family and friends means everything.