Yeah, I guess no one knows what they would sincerely do until they’re standing in the middle of it.  Just like when I mete out etiquette advice, when I find myself needing to use it, it’s not so easy going from theory to practice.  

I had stayed relatively friendly with "John" and had to drop by his office one day and met the GF du jour.  She took me aside and asked me if he cheated on me because she suspect he was cheating on her.  I told her yes, and I also knew he cheated on the all the girls in between.  I wasn’t going to lie to her.  By this time he was super wealthy (thanks to me) so she had to decide what was more important.  I guess she liked the lifestyle and, since she couldn’t convince him to marry so she could get a stake in it, she got pregnant instead.  Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to work?

Telling tales out of school, they were both HIV+ by this point (different circumstances) and it just made me think how desperate, self-involved, and perfectly amoral both of them were.  He for never having learned the lesson and putting others at risk, and she being so greedy (perhaps wanting the money for health reasons) that she would risk an HIV+ child and potentially create a future orphan just to stay in the game.  They did eventually marry.  Match made in heaven.

Given that Joe’s first comments were to promote his new company, and subsequent comments seemed to be ready to hype the "talents" of Michael children, who are not his children, even if Michael did love him, it’s definitely not returned.  Joe Jackson is out for himself.  Always has been, always will be.  Since the day he died they have all been trying to figure out how to profit from it.  It’s just disgusting.

All I want to know is what my Thriller picture disc is worth.  I bought it back where there was talent and respect, and when he was black, so it must be a collector’s piece in some regard.  (And I have the Thriller 12-inch single, too.  Hint!)

That’s okay, Brenda.  This thing isn’t exactly writer-friendly.  As for your comments, I have trouble reconciling the religious "god made everything," which includes people, and even certain animals "abominations."  Coupled with the science that sexual orientation is nature, not nurture, either god is really cruel, or the bible is not the word of god.  At least Leviticus, anyway.  Besides, when you talk to a Christian about the dietary laws, they’ll tell you that Jesus did away with Mosaic law in the New Testament.  That being the case, I should think the rest of the "abominations" from Leviticus are gone, too, like woman wearing pants, for instance.  

I renew my objection to biblical cherry-picking. 

I was with a chronic cheater for two years.  I know it sound funny to those of you who know I was in adult films, but those didn’t count.  (Yes, really.)  Plus, as was said, sometimes you haven’t got the means to go.  

Since my on-camera jobs were far between, I also worked for him as a producer, so leaving him would mean leaving my major source of income.  The thing is, when you’re otherwise good together, you find reasons to stick with it.  Everyone knew he cheated, but I just smiled.  We were The John and Brandy Team.  Every time I decided to allow something, he’d violate it.  I started allowing for the trips.  What he did on his trips away from us was okay.  So he started doing it locally. Then I decided that as long as it wasn’t anyone we know.  Guess what happened next?  Men would KILL for the long leash I gave, but I think the attraction is all about getting away with something.  I stopped with the leash business.  If they aren’t happy with what I have to offer, it’s off the table.  Period.

I think how a couple deals with infidelity is between them.  They could have one of those "special arrangements" of somewhat of a "don’t ask, don’t tell" variety, but inevitably, if it’s a public figure, the public gets wind of it.  They stick together because it’s politically and socially prudent.  What they get personally from the marriage from externally (superficially) means more than what goes on behind closed doors.  

Susan, you got a tiny bit of your wish from Gov. Sanford’s wife when he seemed to disappear and she did not defend him or offer a cover, she just said, "I don’t know where he is," which made him have to tell when he got back.  Good for her! 

Well… it hasn’t been boring.  The trouble is, some of it I simply never get to share.  FYI (now I’ll make this all about me), I was fired from the cemetery because, even though I had "retired" from adult films seven years prior, they found out about it through an internet stalker I managed to acquire who threatened to go to the media about a porn star working in the president’s office at what was essentially a church.  They asked me to resign, and I refused.  Long story short, I went to the media myself.  :)  I figured once you’re a porn star, how bad can the press get?  I found many sympathizers including, to my utter shock and amazement, feminist attorney Catharine MacKinnon.  She couldn’t do anything for me, but was an enormous source of information and support.

As far as anyone goes where I work now, I’m a somewhat enigmatic loner.  Very private when it comes to my personal life.  Never been married.  No children.  Should by all rights have 20 or so cats.  Good lord, I hope they never get the idea to Google me!!!  =:o