wow Laura - thanks for sharing that story -my son will be 5 this September and I can’t imagine saying that to him

I do think this will disturb their relationship like I posted above - whether she is punished or not - I would hope the judge would at least require family therapy and then therapy for the Mom (Yoga, even!)

so scary and sad that there is a whole generation, a whole part of the world, that doesn’t know the atrocity well enough to know this book is poisonous…

nanchan - yes, students should study this part of our world history, but to understand it so as to not let it happen again or be part of not repeating it ever - not using it as a guidebook, sick

I have a 10 yo daughter and I can’t imagine driving away with her crying - sometimes she cries when I leave for work (a Mommy’s girl) and she is going to school, and that breaks my heart enough (I cry the whole way to work) but to do it because I’m mad?  I’m not sure I could that!

I don’t even threaten it, I just say (yell, let’s be honest), we’re turning around and going home if you can’t get along - all kids do bicker and fight, we all did it and our parents yelled at us to stop

in a way, we have frowned on disciplining our children so much that there is a lot of pent up frsutration out there in parents - I have friends who think I am awful if I ever get mad and yell at my kids, huh?  they do something wrong and I say "oh it’s okay, don’t come home late again, okay"?  I have friends who think giving chores to my kids or making them get a job when they are old enough is over the top - wth? 

so if we coddle them but we remain frustrated (human reaction to parenting stress), then add to the mix financial stresses, well, we will see many more parents losing it like this -so sad because it’s the polar opposite of what most of us want for our kids and family life

she should be punished under the law (not sure if she should lose her kids, though - she likely needs help - her kids will suffer if they are taken from her, as long as she gets that help - but they will also have a new dynamic knowing Mommy got arrested for getting mad at us - whoa, that will backfire when those girls are teenagers, yipes - again, the polar opposite of what we are trying to do with our "gentle parenting")

…but it’s a good moment to stop and see how we are raising our kids today and how we control our anger, or how we need to let it out somehow and sometimes, to let kids know they are misbehaving and to stop it, just without emotionally or physically harming our kids - there has to be a better way, a happy medium between spanking (do NOT do)/constant yelling and "oh no problem, it’s okay, let’s get an ice cream"…

ugh - as a town planner, if I hear the words sustainable community one more time…but seriously, yes, going green (make the words stop) is where it’s at and we should - I do believe the science that there is climate change that is caused by human’s dominance over nature, I just get tired of the verbiage day in and day out, sorry, just venting, I love it all, really I do, ack/LOL…

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woops - LOL - yes, that Claudine, sorry

I was supposed to pull one recipe from each - the duck breasts dinner from Pepin and the sesame tea bread from NYT stand out

First, who cares what Newt or Dick Cheney think - they are has-beens and got us into some fine messes themselves!

Second, there is the old political rule:  keep your friends close and your enemies closer…  I still believe and drink the Kool-Aid that the President knows what he is doing…

when I got married, in 1987 at 22 yo, I was likely the last of the women who got married straight from home, I lived at home during college and was in an apartment for just a year before the wedding - I actually needed a shower because I had nothing to set up a house, I had been a roommate to others who had stuff…

so, I also knew nothing about cooking -my Mom gave me a large-type edition of the 60 Minute Gourmet by Pierre Franey - that book taught me how to cook, when to start the rice, what to put with what, what wine to get - it’s the best cookbook ever and I still faithfully use it and More 60 Minute Gourmet on a regular basis

but I will say I am more of a 90 minute gourmet because I take longer than he did for prep time - lol