Jan "Smith"

My Comments (3 so far…)

Who was more important to you, your father or your mother?

Thank you again everyone for your concern. I never did confront my father for what he did. I blocked it all out of my head, then BOOM, it all hit the fan when my father died in 1977. Thank God for my husband. I am now at peace with what happened to me and I talk with others going through tha same thing in thier past. I suggest that if this happened to anyone reading this. Write down everything you remember, write a letter to the abuser (dead or alive) and write down ANYTHING you want. Have your closest friend or friends read it. Believe me, they will not judge you. They will only help you and comfort you. Friends are the best. This helped me more than anyone could realize. Again, Thank You

Who was more important to you, your father or your mother?

Thank You, I have received counseling, and lots of it. I really am fine now and have accepted that it happened to me a long time ago. I love my sister very much and she loves me. She knows that I had to protect her. We are very close. I have been married now for almost 35 years. I have one daughter who has given (me) us 2 grand daughters who I charish every time I see them. You might say that I kind of over protect them. But having a good time while doing it. Thanks again.

Who was more important to you, your father or your mother?

Neither, My mother died in a car accident in 1960 when I was 7 years old. I was the oldest daughter, ended up being chief, cook and bottle washer for a family of 7. My 3 brothers, 1 sister, my grand father and my asshole father. My father never remarried, he just sexually abused me. And I’m going to say something odd. I glad he only sexually abused me because that meant he left my little sister alone. Does that make sense to anyone??