The spectacle of Iranian women willing to compete in Olympic sports wearing the veil is called "overadaptation."  They bend over backwards to accommodate an unreasonable demand, instead of fighting against it. It’s unhealthy and eventually leads to burnout and defeat.  It’s common in abused individuals and populations, and only prolongs the abuse.

The regime-ordered murder and brutality happening in the streets of Iran is called "political decapitation." The tyrants are going after the most active participants and their promoters.  With Obama’s passivity, and unwillingness to take any action to support the citizen/hostages, this revolt is doomed to failure.  

Outside intervention is always necessary for a successful revolution when a unarmed populace as been intimidated back into submission.  The protest have actually done a service for the regime  highlighting and pinpointing the worst agitators so they can be identified, isolated and eliminated.  

Obama just got through saying in the middle east that violence never solved anything, so I’m afraid that Obama won’t be of any help to the desperate hostage citizens of Iran.  The revolt was 1/2 year too late.

Clarification:  Her son’s injury required her to miss 4 months of work, not the injury settlement.  He had been sitting at a pedastal table at a donut shop, when he placed his hand on the edge of the table, it tilted, he tried to prevent it from falling all the way to the ground, and the edge of the table crushed his fingers into at least 10 pieces.  His post surgical x-ray shows a large wire coming out of the tip of each finger.  Jules had to take him to physical therapy every day for 4 months.  She had been running a large day care,  out of her home, and because she was gone for 4 hours every day, people had to make other arrangements.

Two things are on my priority list:  Continuing to write my book on child safety especially child drownings.  My husband is a survival instructor who teaches military and law enforcement, and teaches specific awareness skills.  Because we have raised 7 children through precarious toddlerhoods replete with hair-raising adventures, the two of us have put our heads together and come up with a list of Safety Principles and Concepts for Parents that are brand new.  We are calling it "The Toddler Survival Project" - How to keep your toddler alive, and keep yourself out of jail."  or something along those lines.  

The second thing going on with me, is that my friend Jules, lost her house to foreclosure and is now homeless, so she and her two children are living with us, and our 5 children, in a 4 bedroom home.  It’s more than cozy.  (And as soon as she moved in my dishwasher broke, and my dryer broke - for good.) Her whole family lives out of state, and because she is divorced, she can’t move in with them and leave the state.  She is working intermittently as a dental assistant, but just when she got her tax refund to use as a security deposit, her credit card companies froze her account and demanded payments.  She told them she was homeless, they didn’t care.  Nor does it matter that her 11 year old son has close to $100,000 in his bank account from an injury settlement that required her to miss 4 months of work to care for him  starting this whole downward cycle.  That is sealed by court mandate for his college costs.  

Government knows best. 

These brutal regimes last generations unless the hostage/citizens have help from the outside.  The unarmed populace is pretty helpless against the power of the state.  The evil government will imprison whole families including women and young children.  They will torture children to get the parents to talk, just like Saddam did.  Saddam wiped out hundreds of villages with chemical warfare, and through mass exterminations.  Dozens of children were found to have been buried alive next to their executed parents.

Mossad said the people in iran do not have the tactical strength to beat back such a vicious regime.  Seventy professors have been rounded up and detained.  Obama is an enabler in all of this.  He should be at the UN advocating for the most drastic economic sanctions possible, instead he is playing footsie under the table with the mullah’s.  The British are calling him President Pantywaist.

Obama’s weakness has invited aggression by the mullahs.  He wrote a concillatory letter to them a month ago.   Obama, like Chamberlian, is an enable of evil, and history will prove this.  At least Chamberlain didn’t call Hitler Her Fuerer, like obama called Khameni, Supreme Leader. 

Lawrence Eagleburger said yesterday that Obama is a foreign policy novice.  We’ve sent a janitor to do brain surgery.   

FYI:  The quiz mentioned above has two parts - the positive aspects - and on page 2 - the negative aspects.  You have to subtract your unlikeability score FROM your likeability score.  So even if you have a charming social personality but exhibit all sort of private negative behaviors it brings your score way, way down.  It’s an eye opener, that’s for sure.

#1 I would recommend taking a "likeability" quiz.  This quiz is based on research of personality attributes that correlate with likeability.  All the skills can be learned. The quiz is on a website related to a book by Tim Sanders, called "The Likeability Factor."

http://www.amazon.com/Likeability-Factor-L-Factor-Achieve-Dreams/dp/1400080495 

A reviewer says:

 Tim’s first book, Love is The Killer App, is one of the most influential books I’ve read in the past few years. The Likeability Factor is another winner from Tim Sanders. 

"The big idea of this book is that being likeable is extremely important because: 

"The choices you make don’t shape your life as much as the choices other people make about you." 

"People make choices using the following three steps: 
1) Listen - people can chose to listen to you 
2) Believe - people can chose to believe you 
3) Value - people can chose to value what you offer 

"Likeability affects all three. 

"There are four elements of likeability: 

"1) Friendliness. Friendliness is the threshold of likeability 
2) Relevance, how you connect with another person’s wants or needs 
3) Empathy (not sympathy) 
4) Realness or authenticity. Lack of realness, like lying, hypocrisy, or insincerity can suck your L-factor down. 

"The second half of the book covers raising your L-factor. While I will probably not get a leather "L-factor Journal" and carry it with me at all times, or repeat my "friendliness mantras" every morning, I found this part of the book the most fascinating. The exercises to raise your L-factor are not simple, and require quite a bit of introspection. I’m not remotely a soft skills touchy feely guy, but I really enjoyed the last part of this book. 

The Quiz:

http://74.125.95.132/search?q=cache:JV7XeqKI4nQJ:www.destinationmarketing.org/images/resource_center/T202_L-Factor_Quiz.pdf+Tim+SAnders+%2BLikability+quiz&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=safari 

Speaking of back pain, Dick Morris, just wrote this article.  I and the rest of my family is on a government health care program, and as my doctor said, the insurance is "horrible."  I need an MRI for a probable torn disc in my neck, and it’s been denied.  I almost passed out at the post office, and lost hearing in both ears for a few minutes.  It’s scary since my brother has had 3 discs removed from his neck.  We got the bad neck from dear old mom.  This could be a long ugly battle.

"The photo op was too good to be true.  Health care providers trooped out of the White House and trumpeted their goal of saving $1.7 trillion of costs over the next decade in health spending.   Now these drug companies, hospitals, insurance companies, medical device manufacturers, labor unions and doctors have laid out their plans in more detail.

"And right there, in plain print, is the beginning of medical care rationing.  Now that the cameras have been put away and the media is no longer watching, their secret emerges: They are going to cut medical costs by cutting medical care.  Right now, they cite four targets.  They plan to:

1.  Cut diagnostic imaging tests like MRIs and CAT scans. 

2.  Reduce the use of antibiotics.

3.  Perform fewer Caesarean sections.

4.  Cut care for management of chronic back pain 

"These decisions will not be medical but financial.  They will not be based on a doctor’s opinion of what his or her patient needs, but a bureaucrat’s and an accountant s opinion of what the new health care system can afford.  

"And you will not be able to bypass their rulings and pay for this care yourself.  The rules laid down must be followed and private payments will not be permitted to override them.  What we now call a private fee for service will metastasize into a bribe.

"But this is just the very beginning of rationing.  The total of health care spending now runs about $2.3 trillion a year in the United States.  Over ten years, that’s likely to reach $30 trillion.  So a cut of $1.7 trillion is a mere drop in the bucket. 

"More rationing is coming, and coming soon."

http://www.dickmorris.com/blog/2009/06/06/here-comes-health-care-rationing/#more-594 

Good luck to all of you with back problems.  You’re on the hit list too. 

 I was talking mainly about the characters building a friendship and a relationship without first hooking up.  Another teenage love story I just read, was all about the irresponsible sex, with a very shallow relationship, ending when the girl decides to shoot all her friends and her parents, or commit suicide, that’s the cliffhanger.  I’d much rather have my girls reading Twilight.

Bella is 17 years old, then turns 18, and so it’s not unusual that her happiness would revolve around a boy.    It’s very realistic in that sense, although she does have her own job, her own car, and responsibilities around the house with her father.  She doesn’t want to leave her father, but wants to keep him safe from extreme danger, so she knows she has to leave.  Meanwhile Edward makes a powerful case for her attending Dartmouth, which she finally agrees to.  I don’t see that as a problem.  She’s brave, feisty, and boldly hunts Edward down in Rome in time to save his life, and she fights the bad vampires.  

I have a hard time caring what other people do in their lives, unless they are suffering and I can help in some way.  Otherwise, i don’t judge, unless it is hurting me or others.   

I have my friend living with me and her two children, so we have 7 children and 3 adults in our 4 bedroom house right now.  She had been attending church with us for more than a year, and then lost her home, when she lost her job, and had been unemployed for several months.  She is slowly putting her life back together, but the best expression of my Latter-day Saint faith is to be supportive of her in any way I can.  

She’s been here a month with no immediate prospects.  I have a very patient and compassionate husband.