No… i don’t think so. I have a practical edge that came from my mom. But mom was raised in such abject poverty and then mostly stayed there. So she didn’t own many clothes to begin with. and those she did own were very utilitarian. This question actually made me wonder about my mom and her dreams and what did she let go of when it quit being a possibility. When I was in highschool mom gave me a hadful of dresses from the 50’s. oh man how i wish i had them now. She got them in Seattle when a man who was "courting her" insisted on buying them for some kind of long weekend they were having that required dressing up. They were gorgeous. I never saw her wear them nor even look at them in my life time. Not until she gave them to me. But i know she thought they were beautiful. I wore them on and off until I was in my thirties. By then they were damaged and I was kind of "over" the vintage look (dumb dumb dumb) and let them get away.

Mary - have you ever read about or seen the documenatry on the (at the time VERY YOUNG) woman who sailed a damaged boat completely by herself into a safe harbour? She and her husband had been hired to sail someone’s boat across a vast vast amount of water. They got caught in a severe and bizarre storm and he was killed. She was seriously injured and the boat was damaged. But she ended up sailing that thing herself to land with only the most rudimentary navigation?? it was an amazing story. And she still sails!! You boat people are your own culture… sort of like us motorcycle people. The world looks better from a motorcycle also. When I think about needing to boost my sould through something horrific I always think i’d just pack my motorcycle and go.

Lila - two years ago on halloween i was at a coffee shop. I didn’t even know it was halloween. that’s one of the holidays that I don’t even think about now that my kids are grown. as i’m paying for my coffee the girl goes "I LOVE your costume". it wasn’t a costume lol! it was just my clothes for the day! i had on faded flared jeans, biker boots. some kind of a t shirt. a long military style cotton jacket, a purple velvet fishermans type hat with flowers on it and a giant silver peace symbol necklace. She thought i was dressed as a hippie! Nope… just one of my favorite outfits. my husband laughed about that for a year! but he always laughed in this kind of "you gotta love my wife" way. What i do is keep a closet full of sexy dresses and shoes for nights out or events. Just to remind him i CAN if i want to!

and my dresses are always above the knee a couple inches. I’m 5"3 and my calves are HUGE. and when i say huge i mean it! i’ve had men stop me on the street to tell me how much they loved my calves. you know why? men like BIG CALVES! if i wear a mid calve skirt i look like a square…

I’m with you Belinda… love George Clooney’s looks. His movies are a crap shoot. And what’s up with him and the brunettes that you can’t tell apart? that is kind of funny to me. His girlfriends all look EXACTLY alike. and even funnier… they all stay the same age every decade lol! They are lithe, brunette and wholesome looking. They are all on the edge of success. With maybe the exception being the woman who owns jimmy choo (unless that was just a rumor)and I think this new Italian one is a big star in Italy. But none of them are A list or even B list. Clooney is one of those guys I look at and think "what you see is not what you get".

I’ve never read or seen anything about Kevin Spacey’s personal life. i’ve wondered about that a couple times when i see his movies. i know nothing about that guy. married… gay… nice… rude.

I’ve been committed to exercise for most of my adult life. a couple years when my kids were little and i was in school AND working I got off track. Other than that i’ve been exercising 3-7 days a week for decades. I stay motivated and interested by not painting myself into a corner or routine that has to be followed "or else". I think a lot of people get into an all nor nothing frame of mind which often leads to nothing. I’m committed to movement. A lot of the time that means intense or very intense exercise. and some of the time it means just walking to the grocery store with a backpack on. I try new classes, I try new fads, i’ve hired a personal trainer on and off for years… I do whatever it takes to make it happen.

But the big one is that I plan for it in my mind all of the time. it’s a life choice that i don’t think of as an add on or as optional. It’s as much a part of my life as eating or working.

I bought a black convertible to… and laugh at myself about it all the time! i totally GET the midlife crisis convertible thing. it makes me feel vibrant and sexy and fun. I live in a cool climate and the top is down on that car 90% of the time. i wear and hat coat and gloves but that top is down and the music is LOUD.

I have been thinking about the way i dress lately. I suppose you’d call it a combination of boho and biker. It likely isn’t the sexiest. It’s my version of efficient and comfortable. Watched the movie "the ugly truth" a couple of nights ago. Not a great movie but had some good one liners. In it the male lead is telling the female lead that she needs to change the way she dresses. that she dresses for "comfort and efficiency and there’s nothing wrong with it just that no one wants to f—- comfort and efficiancy". lol! i thought "uh oh that’s me".