Sometimes I get addressed as part of a coed group as “guys,” but it really doesn’t bother me that much. Anyway, Caterine Milenaire, I love your “Cheap Chic” book. It has some imitators, but cannot be equalled. If ever I don’t know what to wear, I leaf through it, reread the Diana Vreeland interview and get on with the day.

It’s rather predictable that everyone is suggesting getting a divorce lawyer, but assuming Mrs. Bart likes men and doesn’t want to be single the rest of her life, after leaving her husband, she’ll be facing the dating scene at 50+. Cooking for one, wondering what to do about her husband’s presence at the weddings of her children and other family events, not seeing people she’s fond of who are “his” friends, signing up for more classes and book clubs to expand the social circle – such great stuff divorcees face. If she’s not interested in sex and relationships anymore and she’s out of love with him after this, by all means, she should get the divorce.